Saturday, July 26, 2008

Anger, Frustration

Anger and frustration are a part of life. How do you control it? How do you face that moment
when it hits you? Is it a bad to be mad at something or vent your frustration? How do you deal with it? Do you live in an environment that somehow triggers this? It seems we live in a hectic, fast-paced world, instant gratification type of society. We don't like to wait. Let's find some quotes on anger.

Narrated by Abu Musa: "The Prophet was asked about things which he did not like, but when questionners insisted, the Prophet got angry. He then said to the people, 'Ask me anything you like.' A man asked, Who is my father? The Prophet replied, 'Your father is Hudhafa.' Then another man got up and said, 'Who is my father, o Allah's Apostle?' He replied, 'Your father is Salim, Maula (the freed slave) of Shaiba." So when Umar saw that (the anger) on the face of the Prophet he said, 'O Allah's Apostle, We repent to Allah (Our offending you). Shahi bukhari

The Prophet Muhammad (SAW) got angry and so did Christ Jesus (SAW) when he threw the table of the moneychangers.

How do you control it? If someone has been angry at multiple times, a doctor or a counselor tells him that he needs to go an "Anger Management" class. If he has been angry many times before, he must have felt frustration. He gets all the bad luck. I wonder if there are any quotes on frustration.

No, many hadiths don't seem to have anything on that subject.

Let's go back to anger.

"O Allah, I seek refuge in Thy pleasure from Thine anger. And I seek refuge in Thy granting well being from Thy punishment. And I seek refuge in Thou from Thou. I cannot reckon Thy praise: Thou art as Thou hath praise Thine self." Witr prayer, Fiqh-us-Sunnah.

A prayer the Prophet (pbnh) has made to Allah. It is definitely written that Allah (SWT) got angry. Though, the outside world, the developed world especially, does not tolerate an angry person. But, what can they do when they are faced with an angry, omnipotent, all present God?
They cannot detain Him. Is it a sin to be angry or to be frustrated? A Hadith in Bukhari says that
"Muawiya got angry when he heard that there will be a king from the tribe Qahtan." What did he do? He "got up and praised Allah." If a person is angry, he can shape the anger to a more positive way in dealing with it.

There are so many hadiths on anger. I hope I've got the gender right referring to Muawiya. It sounds feminine, but I wasn't sure. So I used the pronoun "he."

So, if you get angry. Turn it around and praise God.

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